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blossom · 10-19-2009, 05:01 AM

This is a really good metaphor Johnny...I really enjoyed reading it, and it gave me some hope that their are males out there who actually recognize that the expectations they anyone places on another...i.e...buying drinks, dinner = guarenteed sex...will only lead to disappointment, (and possibly a rape charge), which is the reaction of the person feeling that way because they didn't get what they wanted, and instead of looking at themselves and really examining it, they just blame "the fish".

Women do it too in their own way. I just think if each gender spent more time trying to actually UNDERSTAND how the other operates in their mind, and then appreciate that and work on communicating in a way that each person can respond to because they feel like they are appreciated and understood...things might work alot better! Instead of placing all these expectations on the other sex and then blaming them when it doesn't go your way...

VERY insightful, thanks for sharing that.

10-19-2009, 05:01 AM	#3 (permalink)
blossom Banned Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 3,897	This is a really good metaphor Johnny...I really enjoyed reading it, and it gave me some hope that their are males out there who actually recognize that the expectations they anyone places on another...i.e...buying drinks, dinner = guarenteed sex...will only lead to disappointment, (and possibly a rape charge), which is the reaction of the person feeling that way because they didn't get what they wanted, and instead of looking at themselves and really examining it, they just blame "the fish". Women do it too in their own way. I just think if each gender spent more time trying to actually UNDERSTAND how the other operates in their mind, and then appreciate that and work on communicating in a way that each person can respond to because they feel like they are appreciated and understood...things might work alot better! Instead of placing all these expectations on the other sex and then blaming them when it doesn't go your way... VERY insightful, thanks for sharing that. Last edited by blossom; 10-19-2009 at 05:03 AM.