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cylon · 10-18-2009, 10:27 PM

Here's a perspective from someone who has been freed of the cubicle but is in a sort of limbo.

I felt I was battling the cubicle last year, and it was winning. I came here to ♥♥♥♥♥ and moan and got plenty of encouragement that it wasn't the end of the world. I came to the conclusion that the job was a dead end and that I wasn't going to give it any more emotional energy. As soon as I was starting to feel good about my life again, and recognizing that my life was changing, I "lost" the cubicle job, along with millions of other folks, on Dec. 31, 2008.

I saw being released from the job as a true gift.... All these months later, I'm still grateful.

What I didn't expect though, was how I would cope without having to go to a job I hated every day. I assumed I would just start hitting the pavement and looking for new work but instead, I've been recreating my identity and changing habits and beliefs. It's almost like my body and mind needed a detox period to make up for all the years of burnout and stress. I feel like I've made peace with the past now, I know why I was in that situation to begin with.

I think it's like ending any long term relationship: you need time to recover. If someone hates their current job, I don't know how likely it is that they will quit and immediately be successful in a new venture... not because it's not POSSIBLE, but because you really need time to "get it out of your system". For me, that period of time has been about 9.5 months. Maybe longer than for some, but it seems my body and mind are now guiding me to jumping back into life, on my own terms.

I highly doubt it will include another cubicle.

10-18-2009, 10:27 PM	#84 (permalink)
cylon Family Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,852	Here's a perspective from someone who has been freed of the cubicle but is in a sort of limbo. I felt I was battling the cubicle last year, and it was winning. I came here to ♥♥♥♥♥ and moan and got plenty of encouragement that it wasn't the end of the world. I came to the conclusion that the job was a dead end and that I wasn't going to give it any more emotional energy. As soon as I was starting to feel good about my life again, and recognizing that my life was changing, I "lost" the cubicle job, along with millions of other folks, on Dec. 31, 2008. I saw being released from the job as a true gift.... All these months later, I'm still grateful. What I didn't expect though, was how I would cope without having to go to a job I hated every day. I assumed I would just start hitting the pavement and looking for new work but instead, I've been recreating my identity and changing habits and beliefs. It's almost like my body and mind needed a detox period to make up for all the years of burnout and stress. I feel like I've made peace with the past now, I know why I was in that situation to begin with. I think it's like ending any long term relationship: you need time to recover. If someone hates their current job, I don't know how likely it is that they will quit and immediately be successful in a new venture... not because it's not POSSIBLE, but because you really need time to "get it out of your system". For me, that period of time has been about 9.5 months. Maybe longer than for some, but it seems my body and mind are now guiding me to jumping back into life, on my own terms. I highly doubt it will include another cubicle.