Personal Development for Smart People Forums - View Single Post - how to not be ashamed of needing someone?

Lychee · 02-20-2007, 05:08 AM

I still don't get why needing love is considered a weakness. All over the radio you have love songs about how someone needs someone, someone needs love, etc. This is true and this is how people feel. Love is natural and is required for healthy growth. A child who grows up without love usually ends up having some emotional issues. It's the same with adults - a lack of love (or a lack of any essential thing for growth - see Maslow's hierarchy of needs) - will result in a negative consequence.

Recognize (which you already have) and accept the fact that you want/need love. I suggest you think ask yourself why you are ashamed to want love. You said you were too proud. Why? Do you think that needing love or needing someone who will show you affection is a sign of weakness?

shesaboutspirit- You're right on. We are too afraid to acknowledge our neediness. We NEED things. We need food, we need goals, we need love! These are all things which allow us to progress and move forward.

I don't believe it's fair for people to look upon a person's want/needs as a sign of weakness. However, do you think that if someone looks unfavorably upon you for wanting to be with them or wanting their companionship is wrong? Is that similar to what is being said here or is that negative (dependence)?

02-20-2007, 05:08 AM	#17 (permalink)
Lychee Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 538	I still don't get why needing love is considered a weakness. All over the radio you have love songs about how someone needs someone, someone needs love, etc. This is true and this is how people feel. Love is natural and is required for healthy growth. A child who grows up without love usually ends up having some emotional issues. It's the same with adults - a lack of love (or a lack of any essential thing for growth - see Maslow's hierarchy of needs) - will result in a negative consequence. Recognize (which you already have) and accept the fact that you want/need love. I suggest you think ask yourself why you are ashamed to want love. You said you were too proud. Why? Do you think that needing love or needing someone who will show you affection is a sign of weakness? shesaboutspirit- You're right on. We are too afraid to acknowledge our neediness. We NEED things. We need food, we need goals, we need love! These are all things which allow us to progress and move forward. I don't believe it's fair for people to look upon a person's want/needs as a sign of weakness. However, do you think that if someone looks unfavorably upon you for wanting to be with them or wanting their companionship is wrong? Is that similar to what is being said here or is that negative (dependence)?