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Originally Posted by mariusa  OK, here's the rub in all this.....
His last baby mama lives with him. He says there is nothing between them. She is just there because she harrassed him into taking her in. He has custody of thier son and he is afraid if he throws her out she will take the kid or drum up charges that will have him arrested which she has done before. I think he also keeps her around for convenience. She is there to help him with his kids. I beleive there is nothing between them but just the fact that he is tangled in this mess with her.....
It's a big mess.
So technically, he is relly unavailable until the mess is cleaned up.
Shouldn't that be enough for me to stay away from him??? |
if you only want to have a physical relationship, that situation doesn't have to stop you. if you want something more, and if you want something healthy, then yeah perhaps better to wait because that is a sign of some pretty unhealthy patterns in relationships.
if it's just about having fun in the short-term, go for it anyway. you can even suggest ways to make healthier choices, just don't do that in the immediate aftermath of hooking up as many guys have trouble listening then.
