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Originally Posted by James81  I'm not bitter about my relationship anymore. Took a long time to get past that, but I'm pretty confident that I'm past all that. 
Oh, and just to be clear, that list of four things are all things that *I* did. Sure, she's guilty of them too, but I was the bigger offender in those cases. (Just so you know  )
And hey, it's a message board. You should appreciate whatever time people take to offer you their thoughts. It's not enough to know what to do. You also need to know what DOESN'T work either. |
ok glad you offered clarification and yes i obviously made an assumption. when you speak of using sex and crying as a form of manipulation, that feels traditionally to be the purview of the female - although, as a female i'm not big on making myself cry to get my way so again, obviously that was partly the product of assumption.
yes knowing what doesn't work is also helpful... but i think i have much of that covered from my own experience, which is why that wasn't my focus - but of course if people want to take time to reply, i do appreciate that. now that i am in a place where i am happy with me and with single life (often a sign that we're ready for a stint at the non-single stuff if/when it comes along), i figure i can bear in mind the things i've learned about the less healthy way to relate, and ask those who have a rewarding partnership for their understanding of how they make it work.