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Originally Posted by gigij  I've been with my partner for 23 years - and it's pretty much on it's last legs right now. Why? Probably because people grow and people change. I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. Yes I married very young - but things worked for a long time. Things have only gone bad the last year or so. So I don't see a happy 22 year marriage that ends as a failure - but most people do for some reason.
Sometimes it's just time to move on - that doesn't necessarily mean that it was a mistake to begin with. I don't think that a relationship has to last a lifetime in order to be considered successful. |
you make a good point gigij. i don't think humans are really wired for a lifelong commitment unless both partners are committed to growing and changing and, well, making it work. marriage made sense when the life expectancy was 30-40 years. now i am just not sure it makes sense. do i sound cynical or realistic?