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Originally Posted by ssandra  I agree with that, only slightly different.
Put the the other person first without putting yourself second.
if your spause is doing the same, then things will work out very well...  |
yes, i would think the goal is interdependence, not dependence (neediness) or independence (distance).
if you can put the other person first - without sacrificing your own needs OR spinning it as a veiled attempt to receive kudos - then things should work out well.
i am also wondering about perspectives on the divorce rate but that's probably better as its own thread. basically i am wondering if the high divorce rate is due to people looking for greener pastures, settling down too soon, or something else - obviously each situation is unique, but i imagine there's also a pattern in terms of the reasons people split up (and 'irreconcilable differences' is a very very broad term).