[Megan]

...on the contrary, I believe everyone truly wanted to help, which is wonderful.

When I lost my son, people were likewise wonderful. My housemate cooked for me for an entire month; another friend sent me to a spa.

But the same friend who cooked for me also said to me three weeks after he died, "You're grieving too long." Another friend said to me about that time, "You need to laugh more."

It felt like a form of violence, and I just withdrew because that's all I was capable of at the time.

So I had the overwhelming grief of losing a son, and the trauma of friends who meant well, but couldn't stay with their own discomfort in the presence of deep pain.

I have a tape set by Stephen and Ondrea Levine called To Love and Be Loved: The Difficult Yoga of Relationship.

In it they speak of "swimming in the ocean of each other's grief." That is a difficult assignment, but one which life will eventually require from us if we continue to grow, I think.

And isn't continuing to grow what Personal Development is all about?

I don't think we should be in a hurry to move Isis Kali on, or to move on from this topic. There's a lot to unpack here, I think. But only if we want to.

But you, Matthew, better move on, or I'm gonna hafta yell atcha!