Defense? When was the first time you felt threatened? Dig out your memories and realize that it is just past, a past wound that needs to healed.
That past event was an isolated incident. There is no reason why it should happen again if you only get close to people who helps you to be a better person, and stay away from people who are an obstacle to your goal of being a better person.
If you felt uncomfortable and defensive with someone, it is because that person made your past emotion to surface somehow, so you should say thank you to that person because surfacing emotions is the first step to heal emotions.
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