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Originally Posted by Sunshine82  Seriously, what do you do when you turn up to a party, or a bar, or ... somewhere by yourself?? I often have thought about it and then I think "Gosh, what would I do?? Just stand there?? What is nobody wanted to talk to me?" LOL |
First, people are usually more afraid of you than you are afraid of them. SO...when you are feeling all shy and withdrawn, and people are not talking to you, it's usually not you it's them! (work with me on this one for a moment, ok?)
SO. by you going up to them and talking about ANYTHING (weather, sports...their clothes or jewelry is a great conversation starter)...you'll be helping them get out of their shells.
I usually finish a conversation.. then look around for a person who is standing alone & bored. Easy, low-hanging fruit for me to go over and say hi.
To start a conversation, just approach in a friendly way and say "Hi!". How are you, what are you up to, how has your week been...these questions can get mechanical but they are easy practice & can also be good ice breakers.
Think of it that way. Most people who go to parties have a miserable time, which is why they don't go to parties again. By giving them the gift of a good conversation... you'll have made their night. (I have had people email me thanking me for going over & talking to them, saving them from a complete waste of a night. Kind of feels good)
Again, just start talking to them about anything. Find something they are passionate about, and just invite to them talk about it & listen. You'll have a new best friend in no time.
hth