[aelle]

I voted "Yes. It's not against my religion. I'm female." but there's a bunch of caveats.

First, I don't believe marriage is any more than a contract, so I feel the question is quite irrelevant. One would definitely benefit from being intimate before making any sort of long term commitments to their partner, though, be they marriage, a morgage, a business together, a child...

Second, I don't believe there's a single definition of "sex"... I definitely don't think it's limited to penis-in-vagina action, for instance.
Edited because I feel this requires a bit of development: We are sensual and sexual beings since birth - even before that, actually. We look for sensual satisfaction through ourselves and other humans all our lives, with a separation between sensual and sexual happening around puberty. Cuddles, hugs, skin to skin contact, hand holding, kisses, massages, caresses, masturbation, oral sex, coitus are some of the many ways to satisfy our sensual/sexual needs. Why an artificial line is drawn between some of them to define what is sex and what isn't, or - worse - what is pure and what isn't, makes no sense to me.


Third, I think it's preferable but I don't think people should do it. I don't believe in musts or interdictions.

And last, I said it's not against my religion because I don't consider myself religious. But technically I'm still a baptised roman catholic who just hasn't gotten around to ask for her apostasy yet. It just takes a while to remember it as I haven't thought of myself in these terms for years.