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mariusa · 10-15-2009, 01:49 AM

I'm so confused...what is this??
I am totally attracted to someone who is so different from me that I can't see how we would ever be able to have a relationship.
We have absoulutly nothing in common.
He is much younger than me.
I graduated college, he didn't finish highschool.
He's basically a hillbilly, redneck from the sticks.
I grew up in the middleclass suburbs.
He lives in a trailer. I live in a big expensive Victorian house.
He's never been married, has a lot of kids by different women and baggage that goes with it. I was longterm married...typical family, mom, dad, 2 two kids. (but also have been a bit damaged by the ending of that marriage.)
I have a management job, he is blue collar.
He's never traveled anywhere. I'm pretty well traveled.
He can be crude and I can be a priss.
Oh, I could go on and on. I don't know how my friends and family would react to him. Shocked comes to mind.
Other than the physical attraction...which I don't understand either (he is not my usual type...blonde, blue eyed, I like dark hair and eyes) I can appreciate that he has custody of 3 of his kids and seems to be a good Dad. We do have the some common values. He's a very hard worker. He can fix anything. He can be very thoughful, serious and sweet. We can talk on the phone for hours. I've dated others and have not had this attraction to someone in a long time....the excitement.
What do I do with this??
Could it ever work or is it going to end in disaster??
I'm so lost.

10-15-2009, 01:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
mariusa Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: NY Posts: 19	Compatibility? Help! I'm so confused...what is this?? I am totally attracted to someone who is so different from me that I can't see how we would ever be able to have a relationship. We have absoulutly nothing in common. He is much younger than me. I graduated college, he didn't finish highschool. He's basically a hillbilly, redneck from the sticks. I grew up in the middleclass suburbs. He lives in a trailer. I live in a big expensive Victorian house. He's never been married, has a lot of kids by different women and baggage that goes with it. I was longterm married...typical family, mom, dad, 2 two kids. (but also have been a bit damaged by the ending of that marriage.) I have a management job, he is blue collar. He's never traveled anywhere. I'm pretty well traveled. He can be crude and I can be a priss. Oh, I could go on and on. I don't know how my friends and family would react to him. Shocked comes to mind. Other than the physical attraction...which I don't understand either (he is not my usual type...blonde, blue eyed, I like dark hair and eyes) I can appreciate that he has custody of 3 of his kids and seems to be a good Dad. We do have the some common values. He's a very hard worker. He can fix anything. He can be very thoughful, serious and sweet. We can talk on the phone for hours. I've dated others and have not had this attraction to someone in a long time....the excitement. What do I do with this?? Could it ever work or is it going to end in disaster?? I'm so lost.