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Originally Posted by spirit4711  You tell your old partner you need freedom but immediately have a new partner?  |
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!! well said spirit.
Did you give it your best try? Really and honestly? or are you conflicted by feelings for someone else. I say this having been on BOTH sides of this situation. I told my ex husband that very same thing when yes I had feelings(never acted on)building for another man and out of confusion and blindness I moved on with little "try" to it. 4 months later(nothing ever happened with man friend for awhile but that's it) I went back to ex husband gave my try but ultimately he chose to go with some other woman and I once again moved out and on.
Now as they say karma is a ***** and I had this similar situation in some ways(based on what I see not fact/proof) that my ex boyfriend did exactly what you are doing to this poor guy. Now its fine and dandy if you are not feeling him(the ex). And I agree if its not what you want going back may well be out of guilt or more like pity. But don't lie to yourself. Learn this lesson and next time tell the freaking truth.
Sorry I have to sympathize with your ex. Being told you want freedom and then immediately being with someone else or showing someone else attention that is intended to lead to a relationship is hog wash. I'm not seeing any loving or respectfulness here at all SERIOUSLY.
I had to come to terms with this and its not always so black and white, yes there is gray. But I have learned my lesson. you should try to learn yours now.