I think he needs to go to a doctor and see what the real problem is. I mean, I understand losing energy after an ejaculation (hell, my legs shake sometimes like a newborn giraffe), but to get sick the next day and all that? I think it would do him good to go to the doctor and see what his options are.
I also think that you should realize that problems in the bedroom are HUGE problems. You say you won't leave him because of it, but I can tell you very clearly that these problems has a lot of power to destroy your relationship. Most people don't realize how important sex is to a relationship, but it is. So, before you think about marriage or having kids with this man, I think you should work through this issue together and resolve it.
It will also help you to go see a counsellor or a therapist. You say you can't, but that's just an excuse. it is. This issue isn't THAT uncommon or weird, and I'm sure therapists have heard a LOT stranger things than this. Having someone to talk to and unload these thoughts on will help you immensely.
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