This is my first time to post here, so hello everyone.
For some reason I am facing a really strange and hard situation which I am not longer able to handle on my own. Since this subject is very personal and sensitive, I canīt turn to my friends or family...so here I am, taking advantage of the anonymity that The Internet offers.
A little about the background: I`m a 21 year old girl, currently in a relationship with a man that I adore (he`s 24). We have been together for 2 years.
I probably should turn to a professional of somesort with this problem but once I explain to you what the problem exactly is, you should understand why I can`t.
My problem: yesterday my partner asked me what would I do/how would I react if we couldn`t have sex ever again...well we can have sex, but not
sex, I hope you understand?
He has a problem, and I have been aware of this problem since the beginning of our relationship. He isn`t impotent or anything like that, on the contrary. He comes too soon. Sometimes he doesn`t last for like over 5 seconds. It wasn`t as bad in the beginning(we could have sex for an hour or so) but it has slowly progressed to that point. I should probably mention that he is a sensitive person, in a sense that he can sometimes sense what I am thinking and he feels energies-specially his own (he`s not psychic but just a bit more sensitive than other people). And about 3 years ago he figured out that he runs out of energy after he has an orgasm (orgasm with ejaculation). He gets very cold right after finishing, usually falls sick the next day, gets depressed etc. He researched this and found out that the Taoism teachings have discovered the same thing... that men loose energy with ejaculation... of course all men are different and maybe some need to loose it, to get rid of the excessive energy... Anyway, after that he visited someone who really sees energies (I know that person and he can be trusted) and that man told him that there is like a door in the men`s (maybe women`s too and maybe there are several doors, I don`t really know
) energetic body that regulates the flow of energy out of the body and that his "door" isn`t working like it should and is always open. That guy also helped him and what he did had a positive effect for like 3 months... but not more than that....
Anyway, he has had better and worse periods... in the beginning we had sex and he didn`t worry about it as much since it wasn`t as bad, he also did some Taoist exercises after having an orgasm and they seemed to help. But even in the beginning when he managed to not run out of energy that much, there was always this fear playing in the background... and how he switched the mood right after finishing, the fear taking over, I was laying between the sheets in absolute bliss, feeling so good and close to him and then he would jump out of the bed, start pacing around the room and then go outside and do his exercises... it was emotionally hard for me... I couldn`t emotionally cope with the fact that something so good was followed by panic and such mood sifts. But finally I managed to cope, I put myself in his shoes and tried to take it easy.
We started having less and less sex eventually...since it got worse for him. He would always take care of my needs and I continued having orgasms but it`s not the same...
And then yesterday after he made me feel good, he asked what would I do if we couldn`t have real sex anymore. ever.
I started crying, but it was dark and he didn`t understand. I told him that I don`t know. Then he asked if I would leave him and I said no because I love him.
I know how hard it is for him... I can`t even imagine how I would feel if I were him... I just don`t know what to do or what to think... I don`t want to make him feel bad but the idea of not having real sex EVER AGAIN.. makes me cry.