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Sunshine82 · 10-14-2009, 05:21 AM

Hi Everyone!

I'm new to the forum and very excited to be a part of it!

I'm quite big on personal development and am continually working to improve myself.

One of my 'nagging' challenges, that I often just push to the back of my mind is my loneliness. However, lately I feel that it would positively impact my life

I am a homebody in some ways. I like to be at home, in a calm surrounding, I love to read books and I'm a person who needs to have a decent amount of "me" time. I only have 'pangs' of loneliness here and there. I spend a lot of my time reading personal development books, or any others of interest, and studying for courses and other areas of interest. I love to learn! I guess one of the biggest wake-up calls is hearing others talk about all of these exciting things they've been doing, seeing their pictures up on facebook... whereas my page has nothing really except for an occasional outing...

I wouldn't say that I am terribly unhappy but it nags at me that I don't have many friends (I would say I have 3 or 4 close friends, 2 of which do not live nearby and I only talk to via the internet a couple of times each week. The other 2 are a married couple with 2 children whom I adore and spend a lot of time with - but I know deep down that I need to find other people in my life).

I love the friends I have - they certainly do not 'disappoint' me in any manner. I guess, a major issue is that, because I'm not a pub or club girl, I don't feel like I have anywhere to go to meet a nice young man OR other friends who are genuine and have similar interests. It's not just about meeting a man, but I'm 26 years old and I want to find my Mr Right one day soon! I want to increase my social circle all around - but I don't want superficial relationships, and I can't pretend to be someone who loves blaring music that hurts my ears, drinking and smoking.... just as an example.

I don't want to be dull & friendless! I wonder what on earth I'd do if for whatever reason I lost the 2 friends I have here... just as a way to point out to myself what I know - that I'm really putting all of my eggs in one basket. I would say that I'm relatively shy, not 100% confident at all times (but working on that)... but there has to be something out there that I can do?

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

10-14-2009, 05:21 AM	#1 (permalink)
Sunshine82 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 12	How do I 'grow' socially? What can I do? Hi Everyone! I'm new to the forum and very excited to be a part of it! I'm quite big on personal development and am continually working to improve myself. One of my 'nagging' challenges, that I often just push to the back of my mind is my loneliness. However, lately I feel that it would positively impact my life I am a homebody in some ways. I like to be at home, in a calm surrounding, I love to read books and I'm a person who needs to have a decent amount of "me" time. I only have 'pangs' of loneliness here and there. I spend a lot of my time reading personal development books, or any others of interest, and studying for courses and other areas of interest. I love to learn! I guess one of the biggest wake-up calls is hearing others talk about all of these exciting things they've been doing, seeing their pictures up on facebook... whereas my page has nothing really except for an occasional outing... I wouldn't say that I am terribly unhappy but it nags at me that I don't have many friends (I would say I have 3 or 4 close friends, 2 of which do not live nearby and I only talk to via the internet a couple of times each week. The other 2 are a married couple with 2 children whom I adore and spend a lot of time with - but I know deep down that I need to find other people in my life). I love the friends I have - they certainly do not 'disappoint' me in any manner. I guess, a major issue is that, because I'm not a pub or club girl, I don't feel like I have anywhere to go to meet a nice young man OR other friends who are genuine and have similar interests. It's not just about meeting a man, but I'm 26 years old and I want to find my Mr Right one day soon! I want to increase my social circle all around - but I don't want superficial relationships, and I can't pretend to be someone who loves blaring music that hurts my ears, drinking and smoking.... just as an example. I don't want to be dull & friendless! I wonder what on earth I'd do if for whatever reason I lost the 2 friends I have here... just as a way to point out to myself what I know - that I'm really putting all of my eggs in one basket. I would say that I'm relatively shy, not 100% confident at all times (but working on that)... but there has to be something out there that I can do? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!