- Go on a first date with the girl I've started writing with on the dating site (9)
Done.
I was still more nervous than my usual first dates at first.. but it got better pretty quickly.
We went for a very cold, but cosy walk by the sea and back through a forest. After that we went to a café for coffee to get warm and drank a couple of cups while we talked about travels, movies and a lot of other things. We ended up spending close to 5 hours together. For some reason, I always end up spending a lot of time on first dates with girls, like six hours with my last girlfriend and five hours with the last girl, I dated.
One thing I clearly need to improve on is physical intimacy. We hugged at the start and end of the date and I stroked her shoulder just before jumping on my bike home. But for some reason it's just immensely anxiety provoking for me just to touch her arm while making a point in a conversation
I mean, I can kiss a girl and have sex with her without any anxiety whatsoever when I know she wants it. But touching a girl on the arm unless I'm sure not to get rejected is close to impossible for me. How f'ed up is that?
Anyways - at the end of the date, she asked me if I wanted to get together again another time.. and seeing as I felt a connection with her and she's very sweet (not to mention cute) - I said yes. So we're getting together on Saturday
I'm very happy she took the initiative to ask, since I
really don't feel like playing the "waiting game" with this girl.
Now I just need to figure out a second date activity for Saturday. So a new goal to the immediate list:
- Go to the movies with a girl, I used to date (6) (changed from dinner)
- Go on a second date with the girl, I'm dating (8)
- Attend poker night with a bunch of friends (1)