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Old 02-19-2007, 09:28 AM   #11 (permalink)
Bitsy
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Originally Posted by Narz View Post
Seriously though. Help me make my life more difficult. And more clear.

I have nothing to lose and everything to gain (or perhaps everything to lose from which everything I shall gain).
Oh my gosh, where to begin...the options to making one's life more difficult are infinite, at least I can think of so many things to change right off the top of my head that would facilitate that.

And by definition, it seems that making your life more difficult would also entail making it less clear (at least initially - you could say you have to die first before you can have a renaissance). I get the feeling that my suggestions would not be anything even remotely like what you have in mind, but they are the sorts of things that have brought difficulty to my life and I would recommend them to anyone who wants difficulty in their life! The nature of these things will most probably free you of any feeling of security you have currently in your life, and for sure free you of boredom, though they (my suggestions) might be a lot more drastic than what you had in mind.

Also, being a person who actually has, or at least until recently had nothing to lose (i.e. no feeling of security left to retain in life), I think you have everything to lose. If you have nothing to lose in life, you can become a bit wreckless and do things you never would have done previously because you were scared or did have something to lose, and other people who think they know you will look up to you as being courageous and strong and doing something they could never imagine doing - because they have a lot to lose (or, depending on what you are doing, they might think you are the biggest idiot in the world and thank God they are not as stupid as you are).

Maybe you are not able to feel gratitude for what you do have. I recently returned from Algeria, after which (and with the guidance of this website and other I-M information sources telling me the value of feeling gratitude) I was able to feel a lot of gratitude just for the constant availability of water in my home, as well as hot water and a bath and central heating, to say nothing of the infinite list of other things.

In fact, this morning I just returned from a 24-hour trip with a woman who talked to me for 12 hours straight, pausing only to chew her food, go to the bathroom and sleep. The subjects of her conversation were of the worst, most depressing nature - basically her life story (which I have already heard many times) and the life stories of everyone she knows. When I returned this morning to the solitude and freedom of my apartment, I was thankful for many things, including the 3 moments I managed to break free from her presence during the trip, and the fact that I only had to visit her miseries for 12 hours instead of live in or with them.

If it's true that you don't appreciate things until you don't have them, you could start by removing some of the things or circumstances that are causing your complacency and boredom...or maybe we could switch lives for a month .

At any rate, I hope you find the answer to your boredom among the answers here. Good luck!
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