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Originally Posted by themaster  My teacher states that as we become more our true selves we will give up the EGO planning.. know that it is not our job to THINK (it isn't) though we certainly think it is  , and live in the moment requesting information etc. what we need in the moment in the moment.. this is how the animals live.. |
thanks for this, themaster. i used to be a hardcore list maker, made many elaborate plans... now not so much. very go with the flow. sometimes i think i'm slacking off, then i come across something like this and it reminds me that i have a different relationship with my higher self (which usually has a broader influence than my ego)... this affects the forward thinking a lot. sadly, i currently live in a culture that exalts productivity and planning. ah well... living in the moment feels better.
NicB, i would suggest training yourself to focus on the present moment. a quick and easy way to do this is to focus on your breathing. breathing happens in the Now. i've worked with sexual abuse survivors - who wanted very much to leave the here-and-now - and they found focusing on the breath to be very healing... brought them to tears bc their inner selves were so grateful for the present-moment focus after all those attempts to escape it. so NicB, focusing on your breath will automatically create a sense of presence. it will concentrate your mental and emotional energies in the Now... as you practice this focus, you will develop the ability to sense when you are stepping out of the Now, and you will start to notice how that feels. you can apply this to social interactions.
however, i offer that idea, but i do think at some point you might need to explore the source of this insecurity. recognize it, feel it fully so you can let it go. the focus on breathing will address the issue you asked about, but that doesn't mean i think it's wise to ignore those experiences... there is a message for you there. and until you listen to the message it will keep creeping in. well, maybe, maybe not. just speaking from experience.
another thing you can do is develop your active listening skills. focus on the person talking instead of yourself. give the person your undivided attention, and you will not have enough energy left over for uncomfortable self-consciousness.