My problem, then, is that:
1. I can't seem to be able to find the proper words to describe my feelings and
2. I can't imagine the way I would feel in a given situation.
is this really a problem?
These two result in me being indecisive.
do they? is it perhaps because you base your decisions on these two unavailable factors? what if you dont base your decisions on this? what if you based it on something else. how you feel now for example? who said you need words to describe them? the best attempt will not be acurate anyway. feel the feelings. theres no need to translate them. as long as you feel them and know how it feels to you, you will be able to decide what feels better.
you said it yourself, understanding your purpose well makes you feel very comfortable around certain situations. so that is your answer. familiarize yourself with uncomfortable situations. get into it, get to know it inside out, get comfortable with it. you said you want to improve your communication skills, it sounds like that could be your purpose. observe yourself when talking to others - how do you feel? this will point you to the things needing to be worked on. this is something i am working on at the moment as well.
boosting your communication skills can be done in many ways, one is confidence which comes from unconditionally loving yourself. communicating clearly, for example by joining toastmasters, knowing body language, management and leardership skills, and pacing all help. i think what you are looking for can take lots of inner work to achieve, so you need to be patient with yourself.
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