I think the greatest healing is in our own perception of neediness. This has really come around for me this year. I remember how guilty I would feel for "being needy". I danced around this for ever. About six months ago though...something finally shifted. No doubt everyone here has been a part of this shift. I FINALLY realized that its okay to need love. All humans need this. Really feeling okay with this truth is an inside job, and cannot be faked right?
I hear people talk about someone being too needy and now I just feel like they haven't accepted their own humanity yet. I say a prayer for them and give thanks for this new deepening of understanding. Because now I can see them as humans with legitimate needs and not somebody trying to take something away from me.
Finding a balance of self love and what we need from others is an ongoing dance. Balance, like everything else we are learning about...
At 45 years old, healing this wrestling match with my own need, has finally opened me up to the relationship of my dreams. I've worked hard for this, and it's sooooo worth it. I'm now with a man, who accepts his own needs as well as mine and shares himself freely and I am in bliss
It's worth the work.
Pam