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NicB · 10-10-2009, 06:36 AM

Howdy,

It occured to me recently that i might be putting too much creative energy into imagining bad scenarios.

For my case, in particular i mean socially. I subconsciously or automatically sometimes visualise a bad consequence that could happen.

It seems like sometimes, lately, when i'm in conversation with a person or more than 1 person, there's a part of my focus that's not fully focused on the conversation. Sometimes, without realising it (most of the time), part of me is away imagining the negative social consequence to my particular action or words.

I'm usually very perceptive and imaginative, and socially i'm usually good. But recently i've noticed myself tapping into negative energy a bit too much.

For example, say i'm talking to someone and then i say something to which they don't reply. I will automatically wonder why and then imagine the consequences of the negative that can be seen in what i said. Then, when the person i'm talking to makes a comment (either relevant or non-relevant), i wont have anything to say! this is because i'm too busy placing my focus unnecessarily on "the bad side" of happened or is happening or will happen. When in reality, there may or may not even be a bad consequence.

I suppose maybe i'm a bit insecure? I don't really identify myself with being insecure, but i suppose there might be some sort of social fear(s) lurking in my subconscious?
Or maybe too conscious/aware of myself?

So my question is, how does one place their focus in more positive areas?
It seems like, because it happens "in the moment", that i can't really help it. I can't always be consciously choosing to not focus on things.
So how should i overcome this?

10-10-2009, 06:36 AM	#1 (permalink)
NicB Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 214	How to stop automatically visualising negative scenarios? Howdy, It occured to me recently that i might be putting too much creative energy into imagining bad scenarios. For my case, in particular i mean socially. I subconsciously or automatically sometimes visualise a bad consequence that could happen. It seems like sometimes, lately, when i'm in conversation with a person or more than 1 person, there's a part of my focus that's not fully focused on the conversation. Sometimes, without realising it (most of the time), part of me is away imagining the negative social consequence to my particular action or words. I'm usually very perceptive and imaginative, and socially i'm usually good. But recently i've noticed myself tapping into negative energy a bit too much. For example, say i'm talking to someone and then i say something to which they don't reply. I will automatically wonder why and then imagine the consequences of the negative that can be seen in what i said. Then, when the person i'm talking to makes a comment (either relevant or non-relevant), i wont have anything to say! this is because i'm too busy placing my focus unnecessarily on "the bad side" of happened or is happening or will happen. When in reality, there may or may not even be a bad consequence. I suppose maybe i'm a bit insecure? I don't really identify myself with being insecure, but i suppose there might be some sort of social fear(s) lurking in my subconscious? Or maybe too conscious/aware of myself? So my question is, how does one place their focus in more positive areas? It seems like, because it happens "in the moment", that i can't really help it. I can't always be consciously choosing to not focus on things. So how should i overcome this?