Originally Posted by Angela
I hope you're not going to dump 'em just because they didn't want to hug you and were annoyed with you. They might just need a chance to acclimate to this new huggy you. Plus you might be tossing away a brilliant opportunity to make a positive difference in their lives.
Originally Posted by seeker5
Well, keep in mind the European culture isn't huggable at all. Culturally it's much more acceptable to hug in America than in Europe. It's also easier to accept you as huggable when we thought that's how you were all along instead of getting used to you being non-huggable for a long time and then you immediately changing how you want to relate in this foreign-culture way (which is how I'm sure this huggable stuff would appear to a Belgium person, no?).
I can elaborate.
I don't have much in common with my oldest friends, except for history. They're only interested in doing drugs, drinking alcohol, watching tv and basically wasting time. They don't care about personal development and they don't even like me talking about this kinda stuff.
I brought one of those friends with me to Vegas (he didn't go to the workshop) and he said that he had to bite his tongue a number of times because I was going on again and again about how great a time I was having, growing, meeting people, experiencing things, etc...
I've been trying to help my friends grow for a long time, but noone's interested and I get nothing back from them. It's actually bringing me down. If they don't want to change, I can't help them. And if they get annoyed with me, then it's time to leave.
I'm going to write a new post about this specifically in the workshop forum later tonight.
About the hugging, there's definitely less hugging going on around here. But, there still plenty of people who are open to it. One friend I was the least close to did want to hug me. I even hugged some Belgian strangers already. So it's not really the culture. And if it is, it's time to change it