One last thing I'll mention:
What's really been helpful to me is hearing about other people's experience, but any time I try to emulate their experience, it starts not feeling right to me.
I think what's helpful about hearing about their experience is that it helps to validate, raise awareness of, and relate to my
own experiences. Often I might hear them label something or use an analogy to describe something that, previously, I had no way of describing (although, eventually, I tend to leave those labels and analogies behind as I learn more about my own experience and begin to describe my experience in my own way).
Most people tend to talk little about their own experiences, but one person who I feel describes his experiences well--someone who has helped me with his discussion of his experiences--is
Slade Roberson. Ultimately, though, I've left behind (or at least, partially internalised some of) the instruction he offers and specific labels he uses because I find they take me further away, not closer to, my own experience with "all of this." I'm not saying they're bad--quite the opposite; Slade's been really helpful--but processes and labels are sometimes sort of like training wheels on a bicycle--eventually you don't need them, or at least, as you practice and gain experience and awareness, you adapt or create other processes and labels. It's an evolution, really, so nothing is good or bad, just relative. Understanding where you stand and what is helpful to you is helpful, and you can usually tell by how you feel.