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Originally Posted by Celeste de Kai  What do you mean by "embracing the dark side in all its aspects"? As I've said in my original post, I did not understand what they meant by it back then and I do not understand what you mean by it now. How would you go about "embracing your dark side"? How would that enhance your life and outlook on it? |
Currently, you try to combat the negative with the positive. That is what makes you vulnerable, because you've made negativity into an enemy that can be used against you. If you understand and accept your negativity then it will no longer be a weapon against you, giving whiners and pickers no power to bring you down with.
You can't win by turning negativity into positivity, and you can't win by squeezing negativity out with overwhelming positivity. You just can't, it doesn't work. You have to make friends with negativity, or else it will
always be your enemy.
In practical terms, that means accepting all the things you hate about yourself. Not trying to fix them, but to accept them. Like I said, you can't win by trying to turn negativity into its opposite. Perhaps start with the things that the pickers pick on you for. Understand that the thing in you that makes those parts of you possible, the things about yourself that you don't like, is never going away. You are always going to be able to be weak or stupid or ugly or annoying or whatever else it is that you're trying not to be. Along with the power to succeed comes the power to fail, and you cannot have one without the other. You have the power to fail, and you cannot be free of the pickers until you understand that.