Thanks to all of you for your support and your suggestions.
Cylon, I checked the link, it seems quite the same philosophy as David De Angelo's e-book or other dating advisors, only maybe more focused on the nice guy syndrome. I take it as a reminder not to be ashamed of my desires.
Yossarian, I do a bit of meditation already but I never thought it could actually help me for unconscious problems like that (even if i am bringing it to a conscious pb now). I am not convinced it could help but I'll try doing it before meeting the persons and see if it makes any difference to me. thanks for the advice.
Shesaboutspirit, thanks for your kind words and encouragement. I wish you the best too. You seem to be a nice person Pam
Steve, "Being ashamed of asking for affection is like the cells in your body being ashamed of asking for oxygen." that's comforting, thank you. This is the kind of belief i am going for.
Also, Steve and Judge, the idea of focusing on giving affection rather than trying to get it is great. To tell you the truth I had heard it before but didn't really do it. I didn't hear it in the context of this issue, and didn't relate to it.
I'll be giving affection to the people I like. That's not so easy anyway, because I don't use to do it, even with my family, and my father especially. (even if I do love them)
I'll do it step by step, but i'll do it.
And I am doing right now : love to you all
