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Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb  I don't waste much energy labelling them, Angela. I really don't care what I call them, but I find that feminity is a good word for this energy, and when I use this energy, people tend to think I'm gay. |
are you saying you don't want others to think you are gay, or is that strictly a response to the idea of labeling?
funny, as ssandra said, sometimes in sex, the only way i've been able to finish was to picture myself as the guy (not in a masturbatory way, more like switching places, hard to explain but maybe you know what i mean). i have tried on lesbianism to see if it was right for me. women are really great kissers, blow most guys out of the water. but yes, i am also pretty androgynous. in some moments i feel more masculine and other moments i feel more feminine. sometimes the feminine feels strange. especially like the external feminine (caring about makeup tricks, shopping, manicures, etc.).
Andrew have you tried interpretive movement? maybe belly-dancing? your body may not want to cooperate but if you move like a woman moves to sultry music, this may tap into your more feminine side. doesn't have to be belly-dancing, that's just an example. i would imagine a masculine form is often more connected to physical expression (vitality, working with the hands, etc.) so maybe if you mix this physicality with feminine movement it will bring out your inner feminine.
you could even try out cross dressing, makeup, the whole nine yards. your inner self might need something that... boisterous... if she has been repressed.