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Originally Posted by blossom  ... being around chirpy cheerful types made me sick... |
This is funny, because it's the opposite of the OP's old problem, but at the same time it's the same thing. Living at effect.
Just as a cheerful person who agrees to allow a "negative" person to "really get to" her is making a choice, a person who is feeling bad who agrees to allow a cheerful person to *make* her feel worse or sickened is also making a choice. The difference, I think, is that the person who habitually feels good tends to be present to more conscious choice and opportunity, where the bad-feeling person is experiencing an apparent lack of conscious choice.
Either way, cheerful or grim, if you're living at effect, you have no real power -- your state is subject to the whims of external circumstance. I recommend using that extra boost you've got when you're feeling good to move more and more to a perspective of being at cause in your life, so that it becomes your habitual way of being -- that makes it easier to make a positive difference when you're feeling grim.