 hmmm.
Just a thought for Cylon, he didn't say his problem was that he was a "nice guy". He said he has a problem going to the next step in a relationship. That may be very different.
I'm currently attempting to have a relationship with a man who shares this challenge. Yes, he's nice, but I don't think that's the whole deal here. I've been observing and engaging with my guy for six months now. He claims to be "shy".
Only you, NI can really know what's in your heart right? Just like the man I'm involved with, only he can find his truth...no matter what I do, or how much I think I understand, he has to make his own choice to show up or not. The reasons that I wait are my own to learn and grow from.
I believe we all deal with our own insecurities and perceived inadequacies. Digging for what we are really afraid of is an inside job. Only then, can you take another step, then another. And it's a process.
I wish you the best. I think that the biggest step is the one you already took, in realizing that this is your challenge. Most people would blame the other person and never know they were the one resisting.
So good job. You're part way there.
blessings,
Pam
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