Found some great quotes by Dr. Hawkins; recontextualizes the whole "helping" other people thing
[In answer to someone asking about her alcoholic sister and wondering how to best care for her.] You surrender it to God and let go of wanting to control it. Trying to intervene keeps someone in pain and robs them of karmic merit. If you intervene, you’re interfering with karmic merit. You’re robbing her of what she needs to know. She’s going to need to hit bottom, whether she knows it or not. Intervening actually increases her suffering, because every time you try to help, you change where she has to go to hit bottom; now she has to go even lower. Do you love her enough to surrender her to God? If she says, “I hate you, you’re deserting me, I’m going to kill myself,” you say, “Well, that’s between you and God.” You need the conviction, the first step in Al Anon. Otherwise, you’re serving your own ego if you say, I’ve got to go in there and intervene.
[Someone asked, Where is the line between showing love and compassion for someone, and karmically interfering with someone’s life? How can you know when it’s one or the other?] It’s the sophistication of knowing when something is appropriate and when it’s inappropriate. You can use kinesiology to ask, in the name of the highest good, is intervening appropriate, yes or no? Sometimes hitting bottom is the source of someone’s salvation. Are you truly doing it for their sake?
[The person asked, So do you stop to help someone hurt on the roadside?] That just arises. You do that which comes from the level at which you are.