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Old 10-02-2009, 04:47 AM   #3 (permalink)
Erasmus
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Well...your appearance changed, but on the inside you still have that insecurity from the first girl commenting on your previously unattractive state. And your confidence is based on an outward thing, and thus fragile. And the mindset you aquired from Double Your Dating likely didn't eliminate your underlying insecurities etc, but just caused you to view things in a different light. But you, on the inside, remain largely the same, and the inner pattern for this disappearing act lies there.

Now...if I'm not accurate in any of this, let me say that I'm just guessing to the best of my ability here, so take my opinion for what it is, an opinion.

Did you feel reluctant to get close to girls before the first girl? If so, it is like you are always expecting girls to hurt you. Perhaps...you should think about that getting hurt is just going to happen, but you shouldn't let it stop you from being open. When you are generous, you will usually expect others to be the same towards you, and so you will have higher standards... people will treat you as badly or as well as you let them.

Also, focus on what you WANT. Stop thinking about what you dont want. What is it that you want exactly anyhow? It' seems your whole think is "I dont want this, it keeps happening, etc" Think about what you want.
Hope that helps, if i wasnt clear enough, just ask. Wish you success!
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