I like the Abraham Hicks view that what you are looking for is "relief" from wherever you are at. Basically, the idea is that trying to jump a floor up from ground level (to joy/happiness from an opposite experience) is a ridiculous amount of work- It's better to just take the stairs.
Here's the actual scale recommended by that source:
The Abraham-Hicks Emotional Guidance Scale - Contemplate This
So, you said, "feelings of
hatred and
despair and
guilt are very strong for me." Those range from 19-22 . . . Instead of trying to reach for "happiness" (clear up at 3!) and over-exerting yourself, reach for thoughts of revenge (take this negativity from inward then direct it outward.) Then (hopefully before you act on those thoughts of revenge
) reach for thoughts/feelings of anger, then for those of discouragement, then for those of blame . . .
Then just continue scooting on up in your own time.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Sisyphus2  If I imagine having all of the money that I need, the only thing I can imagine "feeling" is a sense of relief from the stress of not having enough. Is this really a positive emotion? |
Yes- In comparison. I think it's more like you want to be on the positive path . . . Anger feels better than despair, but worse than being impatient. So if you're in a state of despair, anger is positive. If you're feeling impatient, it's negative. Relief is a keyword here, pay attention to how you feel and just look for little ways to feel better. It sounds like you're doing just fine.
Usually, if I'm not actually feeling positive about life, I'll do "wouldn't it be nice if?" scenarios instead of actual visualizations. That's an Abe technique as well. It's just easier to talk like, "wouldn't it be nice if blah blah blah" than to try and live the experience of something that currently seems
painfully impossible, you know? Because you're pulling up the pain along with the good.
Anyway, those are the things that have worked for me. But it feels like everyone has their own paths- So just follow whatever resonates the most with you.