I see feminism as another symptom of the ego strangled society we live in. It's not the cause of the decline of civilisation by a long way.
Instead of trying to fit yourself into your own gender roles, or those of "feminist" or any other label out there, find out for yourself who you are deep down inside and be true to that.
And stop being so selfish.

You do share this world with over 6.7 billion other people.