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Bubbles · 09-28-2009, 01:20 PM

Having opted to take a redundancy package after working for 10 years in a demanding job that paid very well for a market leader in its field, but held little interest for me, I had hoped that I would jump onto the path that would lead me to a more fulfilling life, one that I was in control of, and possibly, hopefully even, "destined" to do.

But instead of enjoying this new liberation, I find myself spending all day online, trawling personal development sites, looking for a way to work out exactly what and where that path is, but making a start on none! Motivation seems to be sub zero, and apathy sky high.

My fundamental question is this: How do you know how to get where you want to be, if you dont know where it is that you want to get to????? How do you work out what the destination should be? Especially when you possibly believe that perhaps because you have plodded along tolerating something for so long, or trying to please others and not rock the boat, that actually you dont know your own mind, own interests, own desires?

Has anyone found any good ways to tackle this very draining issue?

Thank you for any suggestions from anyone who has conquered this monster!

09-28-2009, 01:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
Bubbles Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 3	...but what if you don't have dreams, interests or passions? Having opted to take a redundancy package after working for 10 years in a demanding job that paid very well for a market leader in its field, but held little interest for me, I had hoped that I would jump onto the path that would lead me to a more fulfilling life, one that I was in control of, and possibly, hopefully even, "destined" to do. But instead of enjoying this new liberation, I find myself spending all day online, trawling personal development sites, looking for a way to work out exactly what and where that path is, but making a start on none! Motivation seems to be sub zero, and apathy sky high. My fundamental question is this: How do you know how to get where you want to be, if you dont know where it is that you want to get to????? How do you work out what the destination should be? Especially when you possibly believe that perhaps because you have plodded along tolerating something for so long, or trying to please others and not rock the boat, that actually you dont know your own mind, own interests, own desires? Has anyone found any good ways to tackle this very draining issue? Thank you for any suggestions from anyone who has conquered this monster!