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Originally Posted by Isis Kali  Also, I have to bail my sister out of the financial mess she's created; she has the mortgage to the house
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I'm really curious about that statement. What makes it your responsibility to bail out your sister? If your grandfather has been bailing her out for years, then you bailing her out won't change anything - she'll still be financially feckless - AND she ends up owning the house, paid for with your grandfathers and your money!
Her financial problems are her responsibility. To take on her problems is to be a martyr. You won't get any thanks or return for your money or your hard work renovating the house. What do you get out of sorting out her mess?
If you changed the thought, "I have to bail my sister out", to "My sister is responsible for bailing herself out, I will support her emotionally but not financially should she choose to take that step." What difference would that make to your life?
Oh yes - and MOVE HOUSE! You're not happy, you don't want to be there, find somewhere else! Contrary to popular opinion on this site: having a day job that pays the rent is not the end of the world if it means you are able to be happy living in a place that is good for you.