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Originally Posted by brendannz  I guess what I worry about the most is embarrassment. Past experiences where I'm ridiculed in front of groups of people, even though I know from experience, that the nastiest people, are also the most uninteresting, unattractive people.. I've always found most of the time that the rude people I've dealt with are only that way when other people are around to show off in front of.. So that's the stick.. avoid embarrassment..
and the carrot is I want to be able to trust people.. so relate and connect with people with compassion, rather than neediness and suspicion.. |
Yeah, once you're out of grade school, it's not you who needs to be embarrassed by a person who is ridiculing and rude. You can just shut up, step back, and allow yourself to be calm and still as the person realizes that it's HIM everybody's horrified by. And when you've got such an inspiring towards-motivation as relating and connecting with people compassionately! You are a winner.