 feeling really angry
God, I haven't felt this angry in a while. So, I asked my sister to edit some paper for me, and when she read it, she calls me and says "What is this?" in a mean way... and then later on she says that the paper is actually better than she thought.... it really makes me angry. I mean... that is so not constructive criticism!!! It's just being MEAN.
When you criticize somebody's stuff, you should never say, "What is this???" or "I really don't like this" I mean... seriously, should you?????? If you think something is incoherent, then you say it in a nice way, you say "I think maybe I'm not understanding what you're trying to say, can you clarify it" or if you don't like something, then you say "I think maybe you should change your narrative structure" or something specific instead of just "I don't like it"
And then she says it's okay. after all that, she says it's a lot better than she realized.
I'm really angry right now... I mean... how do you deal with someone who doesn't know how to criticize nicely??? Especially someone you go for for advice??? I really need to go someone else for things... I really need to ask someone else to help me edit my papers and stuff... I mean... if it's someone else, fine... but your sister? Especially when you love your sister? She's so mean sometimes... I just don't know what to do...
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