[Angela]

Valentine's Day is an impossible test set up to oblige people (especially men) to leap through hoops of real fire in order to satisfy unspoken expectations and to pad the coffers of the retailers of unnecessary and often unwanted goods.

Since legend holds that the first valentine was sent from St. Valentine to his jailer's blind daughter because she took the time to visit, then let's only demand valentines be sent from people on death row, as Valentine was, to the folks who come by the prison to commiserate. Let's allow normal people who love each other (or who are just trying to figure out if they love each other, for god's sake, who needs the pressure?) to send letters or flowers or jewelry when they're damned good and ready.

I think if anyone takes such an idiotic holiday so seriously that they'll be disappointed, angry, and actually withhold love if their expectations are not met, then it's that person's job to tell their lover what would satisfy them! Geesh.

This might be a great opening for you to discuss expectations and freedom around your relationship in general.