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Originally Posted by themaster  Just going to make 3 points
I have to technically call New Age thinking or at least Hicks-Abraham a religion by my definition because they actually describe life after death etc.
And according to your Realistic rules based on Hicks-Abraham teachings you are incorrect, things can snap in a moment according to the rules in as little as 30 days.. |
I would agree that some people take New Age beliefs a little too far, but there are also people who take Christianity too far. It's ok to believe in what you choose to, but you have to be intelligent about it. There has to be a balance and not a misunderstanding of your chosen philosophy that's so strong, you set yourself up for frustration or you put yourself into situations where you act erratic. For example, I heard a story about a woman who walked into a supermarket, picked out food and when she went to the cashier, instead of paying money, she yelled "Jesus will provide for me!". That's just crazy
Change in 30 days? It's possible, but you have to look at the amount of time
you've been wanting to change. For example, if I were overweight and for two years I had wanted to be slim, it would be the emotional pain of being overweight for so long, that would push me to seriously start excercising within that 30 days. I believe we often think that change comes suddenly and sometimes it feel like it does. But then we have to look at how long we have desired this change. You will then realize that you've probably been desiring to change for years. The process of change is like compound interest. That desire just keeps building up and up to the point, where we just can't take the pain of not having what we want anymore. Then the rapid change comes because
we've gotten sick and tired of being sick and tired. The pain pushes us to get moving towards what we want.
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Originally Posted by renie408 I tend to agree with what you have written on all fronts.
But I would like to add that my new goal in life is to otherwise eschew reality at all costs. I have spent 43 years being 'realistic' and it really didn't get me much of anywhere. |
What has happened is that, you have believed people who have limiting beliefs about their own lives. I overheard a conversation earlier this week between two young people and it went like this:
Person A: The job market is so bad. You can't get a job unless you know someone or have loads of experience. I've set out 30 resumes and only temp agencies are calling me back. I don't know what I want to do with my life. I guess I'm going to have to stay at my old job, until they lay me off or something. It's hard to find a job. Person B: Yeah I agree. I finished school two years ago and I hate my admin assistant job. I really want to work in Finance, Real Estate, Property Management or in Marketing. I only make $45k, but I want $50k. I keep applying for jobs, but I can't find anything. The job market is bad in this town. I don't know what to do with my life either.
This is
realistic thinking for the majority of people, isn't it? And these two people were only in their 20's! When I listened to them, I immediately knew they would never be happy until they started changing their thinking.
The problem with these statements, is that these two people aren't being specific about what type of job they want. They aren't even being specific about the type of life they want to have. Instead, they're just applying for any type of job to avoid doing what they really want to do. They
DO know what they want, but are probably too afraid to go after their dreams. Maybe they think they will fail. Maybe they are afraid their parents will disapprove. But the main point is that
they're avoiding going after what they really want and instead going after what they think they can have. Does this make sense? And this is the realistic thinking of most people in our society!
You should listen to people who are happy and living the life of their dreams. They will tell you that
being realstic is about living a life where there are no limits. For me,
being realstic is about being honest with myself, dedicating myself to self development, emliminating beliefs that hold me back or which hurt me. It means loving myself unconditionally.
Being realistic means not expecting other people to meet my emotional needs.
Being realistic is about expecting other people to treat me well and respect me, because I respect myself first. It means having a positive relationship with money, not one where I spend money to avoid dealing with painful situations or buying something because I'm depressed or angry. It means being healthy and exercising daily because I appreciate my body. Most importantly, being realsitic means allowing myself to do work which makes me feel good.
Being realistic is about going after and recieving that which you feel you deserve to have in life. It's not about going after what you think you can have, but what you really want to have. I'm positive you have dreams you want to achieve, but
someone who isn't successful in their own lives, told you that you can't do it. Right?
Do you see how I view being realistic versus popular thinking?