That was my huge issue. Here's something that helped me a lot:
- approval seeking comes from the fear of loss
you are afraid you will lose the people you love, you are afraid your friends won't like you and will leave you. Think about it. Feel how it would feel if you lost all the people you know. If you would become an outcast. Imagine what it would be like and start accepting it. See that even if it happens you will still live and be happy. Imagine different scenarios, where you have to move out to a different town or even a country. You are all alone, but it is fine, you don't NEED them. Don't be afraid of losing your friends and relatives.
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