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Originally Posted by aggie  get a new cell phone plan, unless you want to keep paying his bills.
i still don't get how exes can go to friends if you have to deal with missing and longing...that is not what friendship should be about, especially if coming off romantic relationship.
did you give thought to maybe he is not as comfortable with being friends as you think you are?
i believe some exes can be friends, even if it isn't for me, but imo, it either is or it isn't. waiting it out, overanalyzing, being soulmates; you just can't force it. |
I have a terrible problem of analyzing everything I know. I can't help it. I wish I could be more I dunno "flaky" or "unconsciousness" but its just not me. He's paying it actually. I just got them and its a 2 year contract. I know it can't be forced.
I dunno his intentions but I don't know that he'd be uncomfortable in it. But he knows he hurt me big time and is sorry. I feel we do actually have a good foundation of friendship we knew each other several months before we started dating. I still know I need to put that space there and let go but its definitely the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Its hard to believe that in a few days time he went from happy and nothing wrong to not wanting commitment(from a man that was committed for 10 years prior to me) yet has this new woman in his life friends or whatever it may be she is or will be. I've been there I know. The only thing that can turn your feelings off that fast is a new excitement. I had the same issue with my ex husband. We had not been doing well for a year and half or so and I got attention from another man(never did anything close to cheating) and began to doubt my marriage. When I realized that I did want to work on marriage I went back but 4 months in he was talking with a woman online and planning a move with her. Anyway analyzing or not I just feel there was more to his story so thats my main reason for holding on but I see it doesn't matter anyway. I can't force it so I'm letting it be what it is. Go with the flow which is definitely something he has said from the start of the "romance" part of this. Apparently our flow was too fast and too much and I knew it but went with it.