Originally Posted by Mogget
I've successfully done this in one instance - we had a terrible relationship and work much better as friends. It took a while to get really comfortable though. You know you have succeeded when you mentall think of them as your buddy and not your ex.
I've also been successfull at being friends with my ex. We were married for fifteen years and were unhappy for at least seven years of the marriage. I made a decision to tell her I still cared about her as a friend and would remain her friend. She at first believed friendship would not work including what would the other people in our circle of friends say if we remained friends. Eventually she decided that she was my friend and we have been friends since 2002.
Being friends with an ex probably will not work for everyone but for me offering friendship was the right thing for me. I believe if I ever love someone the love does not stop even when there is pain and the best decision is to divorce. Friendship is just love expressed in a different manner.