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Originally Posted by LifeFirst   Shouldn't it be the opposite?
For me kissing girls on dates and touching are easy as hell for me.
In fact, making small talk is more of a challenge because I just can't get motivated to do it....don't see the point doing small talk. And talking to people at the gym...it's best to leave them alone really. That's just gym etiquette, I don't like to be bothered while weight lifting. |
I think the important part of the above is the 'for me'-part
For me it's extremely hard to kiss a girl I'm dating unless I'm pretty much totally certain it's something she wants. This is mainly because I'm scared of rejection - which, in part, is why I'm doing all these things in the first place. Speaking of that, I'm going on a first date with a girl on Tuesday..
Making small talk doesn't really cause me much anxiety. Usually I don't know the people I talk to too that well anyways, so there's noting to lose, I suppose. I used to think small talk was boring and pointless but now I actually like it - and see the point of it.. it's a good way to get to know someone and progress into more substantial conversations. Also, I feel better after talking to someone, much in the same way a smile from a stranger on the street can brighten up my day
I don't talk to people at the gym
while they are lifting - or to anyone looking like they don't want to chat. Besides, etiquette differs from gym to gym - the gym I go to is very social and everybody talks to everybody, more or less.