Not sure but wondered the same thing. I'm going through similar situation. Only no cheating. Well there is a girl involved but its different as in no real cheating. He did contact her and I know from some crazy events that he started really getting in contact. He maintains his reasoning to be that he wasn't sure he wanted a committed relationship yet intuition tells me it has more to d with this girl and also my admitting fear on that part. When we discussed the friends thing he quickly said ya I know that cliche saying but that he cares about me and didn't want to hurt me. bah bah.
I think time maybe. I tried, or rather the both of us tried to think of people we know that made it work. neither could think of anyone that didn't have children involved that required some minimal friendship. I'm "friendly" with my daughter's dad but wouldnt really say "friends". Now I do think of one but the guy came out of closet(meaning he's gay) and much time had passed of no contact.
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Originally Posted by Indiana  If he's going to realise he misses you, he needs to actually have time to miss you. If it turns out you can be friends, a six-month break is nothing in the grand scheme. And if neither is possible, you need the space to gain perspective and move on. |
Wow thanks makes me realize that I should probably step back. I had thought that at first too. After spewing out long texts he tells me I don't wan to get into it, It would do nothing good. Knowing he was right I apologized and went on with normal friendly banter. The next day a friend had said something about everything needing to be out on table so once again I tell him feelings and say there is just no way I could possibly continue on as friends without having it all out there. It would not lead to any good. Sometimes we get into a deep conversations that lead me back but I think they may not be helping my progress. I've regressed actually to lack of sleep and appetite. I started out waiting for him to contact me. He actually will text me if he doesn't hear from me so I don't wanna just be telling him don't contact me but I guess I could become less available. I think moving from missing each other to no space is what got us in this spot. I truly believe we are soul mates and if anyone can make it work I would think we could. I also believe my best female friend is a soul mate so I will say that I don't think a soul mate has to be romantically involved so its not like some obsession. I just truly am confused how he could go from loving me to this almost apathy. I know he is walking on egg shells but seems to me that if he was truly interested in just being done and going with this other girl he'd have just cut ties completely. We do have a joint cell phone plan though in MY name.
