Originally Posted by James81
No, you can't.
Not until you get over the grief, first, that is.
Meaning, when you break it off with someone, you need to cut contact with them for as long as it takes to get over them (a good timeframe would be 6 months to a year).
After that if you want to pursue a friendship, then try it and see how it works.
But I have to ask you...why on earth would you want to maintain a friendship with a guy who was obviously just using you?
It does not match with my experience.
My best and more loyal friends have been exgirlfriends.
Probably it happens becuase I tried to create a friendship during the relationship, and I tried to make our relation to matter, to make a difference, to improve the life of her, instead of trying to merely "take advantage".
It was very strange for me when I married, because I could not just come to them to seek for advise, for obvious reasons.
I have had tough situations in the past, when I was single, and they were there like loyal friends. I even met my wife thanks to one exgirfriend who thought she was the one for me.