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Originally Posted by seeker5  I though you wrote something about how if you were concerns about your visitor's reaction to your goals, you probably wouldn't achieve them.
Yet you still seem to be making progress toward that goal. |
I wasn't concerned about their reactions in the way I was referring to in the article. When I wrote that article about the belief board, I knew some people would hesitate to do it for fear that people would criticize them just for setting goals. Like if you post a financial goal on your wall, will your roommate walk in and poke fun at you or act incredulous? And if that happens, will you stand by your goal, or will you stop setting goals because others have an issue with it? I think it's good to push through this kind of resistance. That was an important step for me when I first started posting my goals on the wall more than a decade ago.
For the most part, people don't tease me about my goals or act incredulous when they see them anymore. They're more likely to believe I can achieve them, and sometimes that creates the opposite response. They get fixated on an outcome that seems too far beyond them at the moment. That causes them to tense up and withdraw a bit. I don't want such people to tense up after walking into my office since it messes with the connection experience.
I wrote the beliefs article for people who need to work a lot on their power, people who must overcoming feelings of inadequacy. The area I'm working on personally right now is learning to create deeper connections with people and to meet them where they are, and my belief board was working against that.
What I could do to compensate is to restore the belief board and focus more on my connection/love goals. Then they'll become conversation pieces that can help create more connection, not less. The $100K/month goal is of secondary concern anyway.