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Originally Posted by kyokushin  Well, I donīt exactly know what I wanted to say. Just feeling a little confused. Thatīs it for now. |
I've been there. Actually, as I have been thinking about it, I am probably about to be there again. B-)
I told my girlfriend that I didn't make any large plans for Valentine's Day. Since I am on a vegan diet, we can't exactly go out for steak like we always did. As of a few days ago, I made reservations at this vegetarian/vegan restaurant called Blind Faith that someone suggested ("I'm a meat eater, and I was surprised at how much I loved it!").
But that's it as far as celebrating today is. No card, no flowers, no candy, no jewelry, no plans.
And frankly, I'm disappointed in myself.
I care about her, but I clearly haven't been thinking about her.
In the past, we have had a few fights in which she claimed that it doesn't feel like I care about her. This past Christmas was kind of amusing in that I did such a good job of keeping her present a secret that she thought I was waiting until the last minute to get it. I didn't know why she was getting so upset with me that day, complaining that Christmas was only a few days away and that I needed to go get something for my sister. When it finally came out that she was worried that I was waiting until the last minute to get HER something because I clearly hadn't thought about her at all, I kind of laughed and said, "So, wait. Because I am doing such a good job NOT telling you that I am going to surprise you with a present, I'm in trouble?"
In the end, your girlfriend is probably upset because you aren't doing a good job of showing her that you care. She isn't expecting flowers or candy or anything specific. She is expecting you to show her that you care, that you thought about her enough to decide to do something for her.
So hopefully I can do enough in a few hours to head off another fight AND show her that I love her. B-)
Granted, no one wants to care about Valentine's Day or other holidays. It's just tough when all of your other co-workers who have significant others that are nowhere near as good as yours are getting flowers and candy and gifts while you get nothing but questions like, "What? Did you two have a fight?"