Hi velvet
You wrote...
"If my boyfriend ever held me to that standard, man, I'd be an adulterer of
fearsome magnitude. "
It sounds like your boyfriend is happy with you thinking about other people, therefore you are not an adulterer. I am sure you will always be able to find people who like you fantasizing about being sexual with other people so you need never be an adulterer. If you are happy with this arrangement I am happy for you.
You also wrote...
"As for your boyfriend's claim that after 6 years he only thinks of you when he masturbates--I'm sorry, but with all due respect, just reading that makes me uncomfortable. Not only do I not believe it, but I think it's a very unfair thing to require from a partner."
My boyfriend is happy I only think of him, is he asking an unfair thing of me too?
It was not something we sat down and consciously decided, we just naturally became sexually exclusive, does this still make it unfair to the both of us?
We are both happy with our arrangement, does that mean we are both doing something really bad?
I only masturbate to the thought of my boyfriend. With all your due respects do you not believe me either?
My choices do not affect you, what I do with my life makes no difference to yours, so why does something that doesn’t affect you make you feel uncomfortable?
You think something different to me, yet your choices don’t make me feel uncomfortable, so it is possible to live in a varied world and feel comfortable with the different choices people make. Just as long as we are not harming other people why not live and let live?
You also wrote ...
"Sally, you're obsessed with porn! Rrrowr!"
In relation to the studies on violence and porn. I am not obsessed. The studies were compiled on a different website, I just quoted them. If the suffering of others has struck a chord with you there are lots more people represented in studies if you want to look into it and help others.  |