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Originally Posted by Angela  I don't know if this will be helpful, but it was for me, back when I was transitioning from being the shyest person in the world into.... what I am now. Maybe it will be helpful to keep in mind as you develop social courage, too.
Everybody* is afraid of you, too.
People want to feel connected with you, and they are concerned about rejection and embarrassment and saying something dumb -- they don't want to hurt their own chances of feeling connected and safe anymore than you do. You may at times feel a bit powerless over your anxiety, but it's pretty easy to see the power you have with others. You have the power to help others feel safe, welcome, and connected.
You might want to try surrendering the anxiety and generating compassion for all those other people out there who also want what you want. If they were feeling how you're feeling, what do you think would make a difference in comforting and connecting? What kind of person would you be being if everywhere you went, you were helping others feel connected to each other and to you? You are bestowing great gifts on people when you contribute to the feeling of interconnectedness -- you are a generous generator. |
Hey Angela, I've learnt this lesson recently, about overcoming anxiety, by being more a giver than worrying too much about yourself..
Are there any ways you can suggest of generating compassion?
I guess smiling at and taking an interest in others are ways?