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Originally Posted by Michael Chui 
As long as you treat your friend as an equal, rather than as someone to be pushed around, I think there are no issues.
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True. But consider my present case with my best-friend. We are two totally different people now from how we used to be. I don't have a job and she's supporting me, and now we are no longer equal. Now what? Yes, the friendship is falling apart, bit-by-bit and we don't have long conversations from the heart anymore like we used to. It's rather ironic that earlier, I was a 1000 miles away and we stuck together like glue for over 3 years and now we're right here and we don't even talk.
The way I look at it, there is only one way to repair this friendship. That is for me to become self-supporting. But even if I do it, things will never be the same again. Like the incredible joy we used to get when we'd meet once in a year. In this present case, she's the one who's on her way to greater things in life, while I'm being that boulder that holds her back.
I'm just so incredibly moved by her persistence to help me out even after all this time that I was being such a massive burden. You don't get friends like that anymore.
So what do you do when you and your friend are no longer equals? So much so that you are dependent on your friend? How do you win back your place as a friend after all this?